As we all know, men love sex, and a lot of them would rather just “hook up” than commit. No surprise there, right? So, you agree to his “boundaries.”
However, sometimes, you begin seeing a guy casually, and then, just like clockwork, you start to actually have FEELINGS for him.
But then, it’s time to face the scary question: does he actually “feel” anything for you beyond just being a “typical, horny guy?”
Watch this video to learn the 5 signs that show he’s developing a true emotional connection versus just a physical connection.
Tweetable: Men feel things too…OK?
So, now that you have a few telltale signs to watch for, I’d like you to share some of your sexual versus emotional experiences with men.
Can women actually enjoy casual, non-emotional sex?
Let’s speak next week.
Adam
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Why thank you 🙂
Haha great video Adam! I always struggle to figure out what a guy is really looking for.
Hi Bell, it can be tough, I know. Men are crazy, but you just need to stay as objective as possible, and when you see the warning signs…GET OUT!
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Hi Jessica, sorry about that. Try again, it should work now. I blame youtube 🙂
Yep! Worked now! And I think it was operator error 😉
Why do so many of us women, me too, sleep with men for no reason and then wonder why they won’t commit to us!!! I have played myself this way too many times.
Men (and women too) put VALUE on something they work for. If something comes to easily, regardless of how attractive that girl may be, a guy will still assume that she is not high value. It’s just how men are wired…
Well, not every man. Most of My Great long-term relationships were with sex on the first date or not so far from the beginning.
I guess, past experience taught me other proportions between time invested and value received 😉
Of course, it all depends on a guy, etc. I’m just one man opinion, which doesn’t give you your definite answer
So, keep watching Adam’s videos..
Thank you so much for this. It really helped me out and was exactly what I needed to hear to accept some realities of my life these last few months. So thank you 🙂
Hi Hannah, you’re very welcome. 🙂 I wish you the best moving forward.
Great video! And ooooh so true 🙂
Thanks Kirsten 🙂
Adam, I’m getting very mixed signals from this guy I have been seeing and I am hoping you can help me see it for what it is. We were friends for years before ever hooking up but we decided to start as friends with benefits because we both had gone through recent breakups a few months back. We haven’t been hanging out with other people but we share many of the same friends and he seems okay with those friends knowing about us hooking up. He texts me from morning until we go to bed and we talk and laugh about many things, and he generally is pretty supportive and comforting if I’m upset about something. When we hang out, he is okay with not hooking up. He will treat me like a boyfriend would and take me to dinner or the movies and rub my back and hold my hand. I figured he needed time to come around without pressure to let go of his past and pressure to start something new. But something changed around Valentines Day. He made plans with me and then cancelled and rescheduled for the following week. I gave him a gift for V-day ( a funny card and chocolate) and he seemed very uncomfortable. Afterwards, he said he wanted to be friends but since that conversation, he has opened up to me more and still talks to me all the time and gets upset if I suggest that we don’t talk to give him some space and let me move on. He will say he doesn’t want to get emotionally involved but continues to come to me for emotional support and ask me how I’m feeling, and insist that I can talk to him about things. What should I do at this point?
Thank you for your video on the 5 signs that hes emotionally attracted to you versus physically attracted to you. I also will be taking the time to ask “Should I be dating other people?” Thank you for your insight.
Thanks for your video – it made me feel so hurt and so ashamed
The truth is I have been seeing this man for 2 and a half years -its all sex and friendship and I love him very much. I just cant let him go as I am more addicted to him than drugs alcohol cigarettes whatever – I am addicted to love – and only love. My mind simply refuses to understand that he is only in to me for the sex. He has been very honest with the fact that he was not in love with me and never would be -he said that after 6 month. He is a stunner …the most gorgeous man I have ever seen – and I am totally addicted to his body – and I love him. I dont get it that he has been seeing me for 2 and a half years without any interest in me….according to your video. I just dont understand how anybody can be that way. I feel so afraid and sad – because of my love for him. Looking at his past history he has been in 7 relationships…thats a red flag plus the things he told me still ….I keep on loving this man. It is like we are twins …the way we connect – yet he says that I will pull him dowm. He wont meet my family and my friends and I have never met his. We are always alone together at my flat …and we are in heaven. BUT now I am beginning to feel emotionally sick because of all the things I need emotionelly I dont get…and I cant leave him, cause he has a sex power over me …like I have never experienced before. I melt like butter n his hands…and vice verca. He must have feeling for me….
Adam, you are a star! You must have hundreds of messages from girls who invite you out.:)
Hi Mr. Lo Dolce. The guy I’m into is Italian too so maybe you can help me. (I am also part Italian lol.) Ok, so I am older than he is and have more money than he does. I pay for all our dates. Not a problem, don’t mind it. Lately he has begun doing sweet things for me and fixing broken stuff around the house. He swore up and down he didn’t like me that way but is beginning to act like he does. I am taking it hella slow and letting him court me. You say if a fella likes you he’ll make your dates more special but what if he cannot afford to? What signs does a lesser funded fella tend to show when he likes ya? I’m more than sure he and I both like eachother. I just want confirmation some of what I am pretty sure I am now seeing :->
Hey Adam, have you done any blogs about dating in the work place? Things are a bit different there as people are on their best behavior….are they flirting or just being nice???
3 out of the 5 he did… but his action speak so much louder than what he says…. then he fell off the face of the earth. Why??? I’ve been lost ever since.
Hi Adam- I am in my fifties, but still very vibrant and attractive (I’m told) with much to offer a man. It is incredibly sad to me that most men I meet just want to hook up. They will not even try to be sly about it. One day they act crazy about me, then they vanish if they don’t get what they want after a couple of dates. On the other hand, if you do put out too soon they leave too…I can’t win. I can’t understand why I continually attract men who just want to toy with me. I believe they are intimidated because I am confident, independent, self sufficient, and not needy. It is very disheartening that most men my age that I have ever been attracted to seem nice at first, but ultimately lack morals and do not seem to put in any effort to create a meaningful relationship. I try to keep an open mind, but I have basically given up at this point.
My head is turning into a pretzel. I have a man I want but didn’t want me. After a blissful few months, he rejected me hard. Determined to not come back to my town. Then he calls me before Christmas & wants to spend time with me & wanted to have a ‘talk’. Like ‘true confessions’. Seems he can’t resist me, was missing me…talking to his friends that he was never coming back here, told me he had no intention of being back, hung his head & it’s like he couldn’t resist the impulse. I’ve been on his brain. His friends laugh at him now, think he’s nuts…he now knows the truth. I’d gotten lost in him (his words). He snapped me out of it a few weeks ago. He doesn’t want to hurt me…but truth be told, he still won’t have me for his ‘mate’ or gf because he’s not physically attracted. I heard screeching tire sounds. I’ve listened to psychotherapists on men & relationships. It seems he DEFIES the odds. He’s emotionally attracted (it’s so obvious & now he says he’s back indefinitely. Joked he might be single the rest of his life & is content to stay with me. But he still won’t BE WITH me, because he’s not physically attracted). This DEFIES logic. He desires me (admittedly); the way he caresses me & touches me & is giddy & the adoring look on his face. But I find that’s all part of the passionate play…he’s a great lover, the way he handles me & so forth. I have had a couple ‘casual’ things in my time. They DO NOT handle or treat you such as this man does. This man treats me like a spouse, a lover…he insists he’s backing it right up this go around but declared tonight he’s back, lowered his eyes face (humble gesture) “I’m willing to give it another go”…he’s back in my life, but again emphasized he will not be my ‘mate’. Idk if I’m helplessly deluded based on people’s will is always changing. Nothing is static & some relationship guides speak to this. The person could be stubborn & still insisting they won’t settle down with you but end up changing their mind. I feel like he’s 2/3’s of the way there. He wants me, he’s emotionally attracted…he’s compelled & returns to me. He’s shown he’s committed (in a fickle way)…all that’s missing is the ‘physical’ attraction. I know men can have sex for the point of having sex, but we ARE WELL beyond that. So those 2 things defy logic. He’s not physically attracted but makes such passionate love to me. It’s making LOVE, not just SEX. And, he’s emotionally COMPELLED & comes to me like a magnet. But he’s not physically attracted. I kind of get it…I wasn’t physically attracted to him. But he grew on me. I find him compelling, adorable…he’s sexy to me, appealing…yet not based on physical attributes though he’s a nice looking man, I’m now ‘hooked’.
Hi Adam- I’m in my early 20s