I cannot believe I’m admitting this to the 182,612 female Sexy Confidence fans, but…
I admit it… I watch The Bachelor.
And yes, I like it a lot (guilty pleasure).
Beyond being ridiculously entertaining TV, there are a few critical dating lessons to be learned from this season.
And as you might expect, you’ll learn more about what NOT to do, than what to do 😛
So in this week’s video I’m going to share with you a few core mistakes you might also be making in your love life.
Is your dating life similar to The Bachelor? Leave me a comment below.
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1. Constantly comparing themselves to other women
In dating and in life, you need to play your game. What are your strengths?
Are you funny?
Are you smooth?
Are you interesting?
Are you intellectual?
Focus on being the best at what you’re naturally good at. Don’t focus on every other woman’s strengths. It will lead to you feeling more insecure and will drive you crazy.
For example, I don’t have a six pack, I never have and never will. If all I ever did was compare my abs to other dudes I’d sit at home every night eating Ben & Jerry’s and watching Netflix. Instead, I realized that one of my strengths was my extroversion. I continued working on being even more extroverted because it came naturally to me.
My message to you is to find your strengths and continue to work on them. Don’t make the mistake of constantly compare yourself to other women. The Bachelor breeds competition because it makes for a good show, but love is not a competition. If you’re comparing yourself to other women, you’re going to lose in the end. Be your best self, stick to your own strengths, and reframe from comparing yourself to the “competition.”
2. Being far too affectionate early on
The Bachelor provides many cringe-worthy moments. Like when the women get really excited about the bachelor and tell him early in the show how great their connection is and how much they like him. The Bachelor replies, “Yeah. I feel it too,” but he’s not… it’s too soon.
I’m a firm believer in authenticity in relationships, but it’s important to restrain yourself from diving into intense infatuation too early. Whether or not you’re on The Bachelor or real life, it’s important to hold back on giving affection in the beginning. You’re not sure if it’s going to turn into a relationship, so giving your affection so freely can lead to heartbreak later.
3. Mistaking intense attraction for falling love
In this season of The Bachelor there’s a painful scene where Raven tells Nick that she’s falling in love with him. But when the camera turns to him you can see in his eyes that it’s just “like.” It’s way too early for love. He’s not sure how feels yet and in reality neither does she. How do I know this? Because she doesn’t know him yet.
You can be in lust with someone or you can be intensely attracted to someone, but until you’ve had those real and raw moment together you’ll never know if you’re truly in love. It’s not until the initial honeymoon phase is over that you can truly be in love with someone. Of course, in The Bachelor they might think they’re in love because… a) he’s the only guy around, b) his status is insanely high because every girl is completely obsessed with him, and c) he’s physically attractive. This doesn’t mean they’re actually in love with him.
A good rule of thumb… unless you’ve smelled his bad breath or farts, then you’re probably not in love yet.
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