When it comes to the body language of men, are you fluent or struggling with basic comprehension?
You’re far from alone if you have trouble reading a man, but the truth is:
The body language of men is really not that complicated.
But if you’re like most women, you completely overthink the signs a man is attracted to you sexually and don’t even know how to read that he’s even interested in you at all. Ladies, men are not trying to be cryptic with their body language! It’s all a matter of knowing what to look for and how to interpret it.
So in this video, I’m going to be walking through a few different signals a man might throw on a date, and explain the body language of men so you can read them.
I guarantee, the next time you’re on a date, you’re going to be like wow! Adam taught me that move! and you’ll know how to react.
You’re welcome (in advance).
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Guys are cryptic. When you’re on a date, you spend so much time trying to interpret the signs a man is attracted to you sexually that you forget to eat your salad.
He leaned to the side and rubbed his belly. What does that mean??
He keeps touching his mouth. Do I have spinach in my teeth and he’s trying to tell me?
You’re overthinking it again, sexy lady.
Another issue is that you’re trying to read the signs that a woman would send. You know what you’d do to communicate that you like a man, so you’re looking for those same types of signals.
But you can’t. Because, as we all know, men and women are totally different.
Women are more attuned to paying attention to body language. Men, on the other hand, aren’t that great at communicating through subtle body actions. So you can see…you’re rather at odds from one another. So the secret to success in becoming fluent in the body language of men is understanding that it is an entirely different language from the one you communicate with your own body.
Allow me to teach you a few key cues that men are likely sending you without you being aware of what they mean.
Body Language of Men #1: He Tilts His Head
If a man tilts his head when he meets you, it is very likely that he is attracted to you. There’s warmth in a head tilt.
It can mean he’s curious about you, or that he’s inviting you over to talk. People do it completely subconsciously. We don’t even think about it when we do this. Chances are you do this when you meet guys that you like. Combined with eye contact, it can be one of the really powerful signs a man is attracted to you sexually, so keep an eye out for it.
Even if you’re in a professional situation, like at work, and meet a man, don’t assume there’s no attraction there.
He may not say “damn girl, you hot”. He’s just going to say, “it’s very nice to meet you”. He’s being professional, after all. But there’s a certain level of warmth and intimacy that goes along with tilting his head, so if he does that, know he doesn’t want to keep things strictly professional.
What to Do Back: If he’s tilting his head at you, make sure your own body language indicates interest. Lean in when he talks, and make lots of eye contact.
Body Language of Men #2: He Fidgets
Back in the day when I used to coach men on how to go out and meet sexy single ladies like you, I used to take them out and we’d go out to a park or to a coffee shop, and, yes, I would actually push them to go out and meet women, to confront their social fears.
One of the biggest things that a lot of these guys would do is they would fidget. They’d have a lot of nervous energy.
You’ve probably noticed that a lot of times when you were on a first date: the man kept fidgeting. And it might have been a turn-off to you because you thought it showed a lack of confidence.
But here’s something I’d like you to acknowledge: having the courage to step up and talk to you or ask you out takes a lot of courage. It takes guts. So give the guy just a little bit of room there to fidget, to be nervous. It’s totally natural, and hey, doesn’t it feel kind of awesome that you’re the thing making him so nervous?
Here’s something interesting: men fidget twice as much as women! A study in the journal PLoS ONE found that fidgeting only reduces stress in men, not women (it lowers levels of cortisol). So cut him some slack if he fidgets and know that he’s stressed out on this date and wants it to go well!
What to Do Back: Try this and see if his fidgeting diminishes: compliment him. It’ll boost his confidence a bit and he might feel more relaxed. Then the nice thing is: once a guy feels confident around you, you’re going to get to know the real him even faster, not that Nervous Nellie who is crazily tapping his foot against the table.
I should say, by the way, that I found that a lot of the guys who were nervous when meeting girls ended up being really good, genuine guys. It’s unfortunate that, because they have this nervous body language, they fidget a lot, and women sometimes aren’t attracted to them.
So if you find yourself on a date or talking with a fidgeter, please give him a little bit of time to get to know you and feel more comfortable around you, and then you can get to know the real him. He might just completely surprise you and, who knows, that might be the guy you end up with!
Body Language of Men #3: He Touches You
Now I think most women will agree that the easiest way to creep out a woman is when a guy that you’re not attracted to touches you. But if you are attracted to him, chances are if he touches you, you’re going to feel much more connected to him. You’ll purr like a kitten.
If he touches you on the hand or the arm, that may be more cordial, more like he’s into you as a friend only. But if he’s touching your shoulder or your lower back, he’s giving you signs that he’s attracted to you sexually, that he’s seeing where this could potentially go.
If a guy is breaking that touch barrier, it’s likely that he’s interested in just a little bit more than being friends. And that’s good news if you’re into this guy!
What to Do Back: If he touches your back, lean into it to communicate that you are receptive to his touch. Reciprocate the touch sometime during the date. Put your flat palms on his upper chest or touch his neck.
Body Language of Men #4: He Holds a Hug a Long Time
You: Hi Billy. It’s so good to see you.
Him: Wow, you look great.
You’ve probably had this happen to you. A guy you’re into hugs you…for a looooong time. He doesn’t want to let you go. It means he cares about you. There’s something going on there. There’s something more there than just a friendship. Friends don’t hold on to hugs for longer than a few seconds. It’s just a quick hug.
But if he’s really holding on, he’s taking that time for your bodies and your energy to connect with one another.
And hey, there’s nothing wrong with a good long hug! Science shows that we get a hit of oxytocin when we hug, which helps us bond with the person we’re hugging. Hugs can even boost the immune system and calm the body (see #2: fidgeting).
Virginia Satir, an American psychologist, goes so far as to say we need hugs to survive and thrive: “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”
So let that guy hug you long and hard!
What to Do Back: Hug back! But realize a hug is not a hug is not a hug. Don’t hug like a limp fish. Embrace his back firmly and warmly. Maybe snuggle into that space between his shoulder and neck. Let him break away first.
Body Language of Men #5: He Touches His Face
This was one of those signs a man is attracted to you sexually that even I have been guilty of when I was going out and meeting women back in the day.
I met my now-girlfriend, Jess, on New Year’s three years ago, and she commented that I was constantly touching my face when we first started dating. It’s something I do when I’m nervous. I’ve even done it when I speak in front of large audiences, even though I don’t consciously know I’m nervous.
So what’s up with a man touching his face? In fact, it’s his way of grooming himself, or to make sure he doesn’t have anything on his face or on his lips. It’s the equivalent of you touching your hair to make sure it looks good on a date.
It also depends what part of his face he’s touching. If he touches his throat, which represents vulnerability and communication, he may be worried about saying the right thing. If he touches or smooths his hair, he’s doing the same thing you do: trying to make sure he looks okay. If he strokes his cheek with the back of his fingers, touches his ears, or rubs his chin, he is totally into you and may be thinking about kissing you or even having sex with you, since these are signs a man is attracted to you sexually.
What to Do Back: Try flashing your wrists! Sounds crazy, but holding your wrists toward him indicates your own sexual interest. Why? Perhaps because way back before Daisy Dukes shorts women were covered head to toe in clothing…except their wrists (and ankles), so it was the only skin they could expose.
Body Language of Men #6: He’s Constantly Smiling
The easiest body language of men to interpret is a smile.
Humans smile when they’re interested, when they’re happy, when they’re engaged.
So if he’s constantly smiling when he’s with you, that’s a big SCORE.
He may also try to get you to smile or laugh by cracking jokes. Don’t let your own nervousness get in the way of you smiling back to let him know you dig him too. Nobody likes RBF (which, science says, is a real thing).
What to Do Back: One of the best things that you can do to attract an amazing man is to smile at him. I call it smocking, smiling while talking. You may need to check in to make sure you’re smiling at him, especially if his blue eyes are dazzling you and making you forget to smile.
There you have it: 6 ways to interpret the body language of men. These subtle signs give you an indication of when you should keep talking to a guy (because he’s interested) or when you should move on (he’s not feeling it).
I really believe that what separates great communicators from bad communicators is body language. The best way to improve your own body language is by noticing it in others. Pay attention to the signs a man is sending you. Do they feel positive? Do you feel like he’s interested in you?
Then you’re probably right.
So now that you’ve watched this video, you now know more than 99% of people out there about the body language of men because most people don’t even think about it. You’re ahead of the game, Sexy Confident Lady!
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