If you’re considering hiring a dating coach, please read this article and watch this video first.
Dating coaches vary in their approaches to dating, and it’s important that you find one that fits your needs and personality. Just like there are a dozen different approaches to dating, dating coaches have a dozen (or more!) dating philosophies. Not everyone will be right for you.
I’ve been working as a dating coach for over eight years, and even in that time, my approach has changed significantly. I guarantee you wouldn’t have wanted to hire me when I first started! But now my approach is one that has helped thousands of women find true love, so I must be onto something, right?
In this video and article, I want to help you understand what you should look for if you want to hire a dating coach, as well as help you understand what you can expect when working with one.
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I’ve been a dating coach for a long time, and let me tell you: I’ve seen some really sketchy people who claim to be dating coaches, but who just seem to be more concerned with taking your money than actually helping you find love.
On the other hand, I’ve also seen some really talented dating coaches, so there certainly is the full spectrum of choice for you when hiring a dating coach.
What is a Dating Coach?
But first…what is a dating coach?
A dating coach is your partner to helping you reach your dating and relationship goals. He (or she) can look at your patterns in dating and point out what isn’t serving you. A dating coach can give you tips on how to talk to men, where to find them, and how to engage with them on dating apps.
A dating coach might give you tips to improve your dating profiles and photos. He might dissect a date you went on and give you feedback to ensure you get a second date.
A dating coach is like a football coach in that he’s there to help you win the game.
How to Know You’re Ready for a Dating Coach
So you’re frustrated with the lackluster results you’ve gotten in dating and you’re looking for a better solution. But is a dating coach the right move? Here are some reasons you should consider working with one:
- You see the same patterns in relationships and dating and are ready to break them
- You struggle to meet men of quality
- You don’t get asked out on second dates
- You are overwhelmed with dating at this point in your life
- You aren’t going on dates
- You want help navigating online dating
- You have trouble finding a man willing to commit
5 Things You Should Consider Before Hiring a Dating Coach
Let me give you a few things to look for when searching for a dating coach, even if all you want is their free material to start. You need to find a dating coach who is aligned with what you need right now.
1. Their Philosophy on Dating
Every dating coach has a different dating philosophy. My philosophy in my programs for women is all about confidence — build yourself first before looking for a relationship.
There are other coaches out there that prescribe a lot of rules for you to follow. That’s not my style, but it may work for you.
Other coaches encourage you to be a bitch to attract men. Really!
It’s all over the spectrum, so before investing time and money in a dating coach, find out what his or her approach is to finding love.
2. Their Perspective on Love
Another thing you should be informed about is what this dating coach’s perspective on love is.
Right now, I’m a male in my 30s who is in a happy relationship…but years ago, when I was a coach for men, I was single and in my 20s and would work with men to help them meet and flirt with women. Where I’ve been in my own dating life has obviously impacted my approach to love.
Back when I was dating, my focus with male clients was to help them socialize and meet as many women as possible. Now my focus with female clients is to help them find love and a relationship.
Look at where the dating coach is coming from. Some are older; some are younger. Some will be in a relationship, while others are single. Each will provide a different perspective on finding love, so make sure it aligns with your own.
3. Look at Their Solutions to Finding Love
Some dating coaches are all about online…
Others focus on offline…
Others are matchmakers…
Pick a dating coach that will help you get the love life you want with the right solutions to finding love.
4. Ask Yourself: “Is Their FREE content GOOD?”
Now, I make YouTube videos like the one above and articles like this one to move you in the right direction to finding love.
Most dating coaches have videos, articles, and books, but before you invest even a dime in any of it, see what their free content is like. Does it relate to you? Does it resonate? Do you find value in it, or does it almost lead you to actual applicable solutions…and then try to sell you on buying something?
Their website should be full of valuable information and have a decent amount that you can get for absolutely free.
A dating coach’s free content should be so good that you’re eager to pay to get even more advice.
5. Do You Need a Digital Program Rather Than a Coach?
Realize that you aren’t limited to hiring a dating coach as a solution to help you find love. You also have the option of following an online program that has resources, videos, and ebooks to help you on your journey.
A lot of dating coaches don’t do one-on-one coaching much because their time is limited. With so many people that want to work with them, they simply don’t have time enough to help them all. They can reach more people by setting up subscription services like Sexy Confidence.
I stopped doing one-on-one coaching recently because my time was limited, and I’m thrilled that I can help so many more women through Sexy Confidence. Rather than charge $10-15K per client, I package everything into smaller courses that are more structured and that my clients can access on their own time schedule.
How to Find a Dating Coach
A quick Google search for “dating coach” will give you more than 7 million results, so it’s important to know exactly what you’re looking for to narrow it down.
First, start with that question: do you need a digital program or an actual dating coach?
If You Want an Online Program…
If you’re studious and like the idea of DYIing your approach to finding love, look for a program that targets your specific goals. If you’re trying to flirt, meet men, or find love, there’s a program for that.
There are sites with rigid programs (“meet a guy in 3 weeks”) that you can follow.
Other sites have ebooks and guides you can download.
Some (like Sexy Confidence) have online forums where you can ask questions and get advice from other members.
If You Want a Dating Coach…
And then when it comes to dating coaches, there are local ones you can meet in person.
There are those you can interact with via Skype, email, or text.
It really depends what you’re looking for.
Factor in Your Budget
Naturally, following an online program will be more affordable. Sexy Confidence, at least at the time of writing this, is $35 a month. It’s budget-friendly.
A dating coach may charge $100 or more per session or may charge a flat fee of several thousand dollars for a set list of services. If you do decide to hire a dating coach, ask what the fee includes. Some may try to nickel and dime you, creating add-on charges for things you’d expect to be included.
Look for a guarantee, too. You want some assurance that you won’t waste your money, whichever solution you choose. Sexy Confidence, for example, lets you preview the materials for 30 days, and if you’re not 100% satisfied, you get a full refund. It’s important to me that women who subscribe feel like they have no risk in doing so.
Ask for References
You want to know that this dating coach has gotten results, don’t you? So ask for them!
A coach who’s serious about his work should be willing to put you in touch with happy clients that he’s helped find love.
If you haven’t been getting the results you want in dating through your own efforts, it might be time to get help. A professional dating coach has assisted hundreds of women in defining what they want in a relationship and then finding it. A coach can provide outside perspective (so hard when you’re wrapped up in your own situation) and give you advice that you would never have given yourself.
One thing I’d caution you of, though: you have to be willing to make changes. A dating coach is likely not going to say you’ve been doing everything perfectly. You can’t put the blame on all the men of the world; you have to take some responsibility for your actions.
So are you willing to hear constructive feedback and make changes that help you find love?
Or will you cover your ears, in denial that you could ever be anything less than perfect?
A dating coach is most successful when you are open to hear what he observes about you and get out of your comfort zone in trying something new. He may tell you to go to a bar and talk to as many men as possible. This might terrify you, but at least it will give you more experience.
He may tell you to ask a man on a date. You might prefer to be pursued, but at least you’ll see what men go through.
If you’re willing to put effort into achieving your relationship goals, then you’re ready for a dating coach!
So I want to know: have you hired a dating coach? What’s been your experience? Leave a comment below and share your experience.
Like I said: any dating coach should start with the basics: confidence. Boost yours with the Men Love Confident Women Ebook.