Have you ever dated a guy who seemed to lose interest or suddenly disappear when you thought everything was going great?
Unfortunately, our society has shifted towards ghosting and walking away from a situation without proper communication or respect.
The truth is, even if guys aren’t openly communicating their level of interest, they’re doing it in other non-verbal ways.
Recognizing that a guy ISN’T interested in you is just as important as recognizing if he is.
Here are 9 red flags that show he’s just not into you:
So tell me, have you experienced any of these signs from someone who wasn’t interested?
And remember – if a man truly loves and cares about you, you will know and feel it. If he doesn’t, you’ll be left wondering all the time where he stands.
1. He doesn’t show real interest in you.
Any guy can compliment you or take you out for drinks, but I’m talking about real interest. He should be asking in-depth questions like:
What is your family like?
What are your passions?
What are your goals in life?
If a man isn’t showing real and genuine interest in you as a person, then he’s just not that into you.
2. He doesn’t plan in advance
Could the next time you’re seeing him be the LAST time?
Do you never know when you’ll be getting together next?
If a man is really into you, he’ll be looking forward to the next time he gets to see you… because it’s a privilege. He’ll generally plan ahead and talk about the future. If he seems to always be playing things by ear, then he’s keeping his options open.
3. There is no PDA
PDA stands for public display of affection. Not all guys are affectionate, and that’s okay. There’s a difference between being non-demonstrative and trying to look single. If a guy is out with you and you feel more like his sister than his date, then he’s just not that into you. Men typically show their affection through physical gestures. If that’s not happening then it’s time to move on.
4. You don’t meet his friends or family
A man who is serious about you will want you to meet the important people in his life. He is proud to be with you and will want to show you off. If a man is making excuses to keep you from his friends or family, then he’s just not that into you.
I hear women complain often about men being HOT and COLD. If a man is hot and cold it’s likely he is exploring other options, and is not sold on committing to you. Consistency is key because it’s the foundation of trust. If you never know what you’re going to get with him, he’s just not that interested in you.
6. He’s always busy
We all lead busy lives… work, gym, family, friends… time is short. But men make time for priorities. If a man really wants to see you he will make time for you. There will be no excuses, lies or broken promises if you are his priority. However, if he is always busy and rarely makes time for you then he’s just not that into you.
7. He treats everyone how he treats you
Yes, it’s important for a man to be kind and flirty towards you, but what if he’s kind and flirty towards everyone. The waitress? The bartender? The barista? You should be special and unique in his life and he should treat you accordingly.
8. He refuses to talk about your relationship status
A man who’s really into you will not be terrified of committing to you. Assuming you’ve been dating for more than a few months, then it’s totally fair to expect a committed relationship.
9. He mistreats you in ANY WAY
This is the most important point of all. Any man who consistently hurts you, emotionally or physically, does not love you. You don’t hurt people you are interested in and especially not people you love. You don’t betray them or lie to them just to save your own ass. Have the courage to remove people from your life who are toxic and harmful. You deserve better!