Once you find a man that you’re into and you start getting physical, you start looking for turn ons for guys in an effort to keep things nice and steamy in your relationship.
I’m sure you don’t need a ton of help in this department, but in the event that you need a little inspiration, I’ve put together a big ole list of ways to turn on a guy.
Awesome List of the 24 Biggest Turn Ons for Guys
The thing that a lot of women don’t realize is that turn ons for guys don’t always have to be physical. Yes, a gentle caress can create fireworks, but sometimes it’s the more subtle things that make a guy want you. It’s all about reading the situation and choosing the right turn on for the situation.
Here, I wanted to give you tips that are both physical and non-physical so you have lots of options for any situation.
How to Turn on a Guy Without Touching Him
Don’t assume you have to drape yourself all over a guy to get his attention. That’s not true at all! Here, I teach you how to turn a man on without touching him at all!
1. Make the First Move
While the idea of flirting with a guy, making your interest known, or even asking him out might terrify you, it’s actually a great way to get his attention big time. While only one in 10 women makes the first move, 92% of men like it when they do.
He may be surprised, but pleased. Don’t be shy! If you sense that a man you’ve been talking to is interested, ask for his number. Or ask him out. The worst he can say is no, right?
2. Make Eye Contact
This is one of those turn ons for guys that works whether you’ve never even spoken to him (you see him across the bar) or you’ve been dating several weeks…or years.
Eye contact is crazy effective at helping you seduce a man.
Yes, it can be challenging to lock gazes with someone you’re interested in. It makes you feel vulnerable. You feel like he can read every emotion you’re feeling.
But that’s the point!
Prolonged eye contact shows your interest. It’s also hella sexy. When someone looks into our eyes, we feel like they really see us. They know who we are, and they care about us. That’s one of the biggest turn ons for guys (or women), in my book.
3. Get Texty with Him
If you’ve been on at least a few dates with this man and are comfortable getting a little flirty via text, that’s another great way to turn on a guy. There are varying levels of seduction you can do via text, so if you don’t want to go full-on sexting, you can still make an impact via text. Here are some example texts:
Ahh. Just got out of a long steamy bath. Thinking of you…
I haven’t done laundry in a week. Guess I’ll have to wear that t-shirt you left here to bed!
Your goal with sending hot texts is to make him think about you…and want you. If you haven’t had sex yet, focus on the aspect of anticipation (only if you plan to have sex with him in the foreseeable future). Make him want you all the more by dropping hints about how you’re looking forward to it, and how great it will be.
Sorry our date was cut short. I’ll make up for it next time. Promise. 😉
Next Friday I was thinking…Game of Thrones marathon? In bed? Clothing optional.
If you have had sex with him, make him remember and want you again.
Still thinking about the other night. Wow!
You should patent that thing you did last night. It blew my mind!
4. Wear Red
Did you know that the color red can increase blood pressure and pulse rate? While it may have indicated danger to our ancestors, now red is considered the color of passion.
If you wear a red article of clothing — extra points if it’s a flattering dress — you’ll make his pulse race and make him desire you even more.
And red lips can do it for him, too. Studies have shown that men are more drawn to women wearing red lipstick than any other shade. So if you haven’t considered red, there’s all the more reason to do so!
5. Have a Secret Signal
Come up with a signal that lets him know you’re thinking naughty thoughts of him and want to make a quick exit from wherever you are to get it on. It could be an eye wink, tossing your hair in a certain way, or making a gesture with your hands.
Use this signal in the middle of a boring party. When you’re out with friends. At the grocery store. I guarantee he’ll be quick to put down his shopping basket and see what’s in store for him!
6. Pretend You Don’t Know Each Other
If you’ve been dating a while, here’s a fun little role-playing opportunity that serves as a fantastic turn on for guys. Go to a bar and order a drink. Wait. Then your man shows up and sits at the bar next to you. You don’t acknowledge that you know him. He introduces himself, and you chat like strangers.
He asks if he can buy you a drink. You let him. You flirt. He flirts. Let the night take you wherever you want from there.
Why is this a turn on for guys? It’s the idea of picking up a stranger in a bar…but safe. If you’ve been dating a while, you might be taking one another for granted, so by pretending you’re strangers, you get that appreciation and chemistry that maybe has been long buried.
7. Tell Him You’re Not Wearing Underwear
This is another move if you’ve been having sex that can make the anticipation build. Either text him before your date and notify him that you will be going commando on your date that night, or whisper it in his ear as he opens the door to the restaurant for you.
He’ll have to restrain himself all evening, but you can bet it’ll be fun once he no longer has to!
8. Update Your Look
Whether it’s getting a sexy new haircut, a mani/pedi, or a new lingerie set, change is good for your relationship. He’ll appreciate the effort you’ve put into your appearance, especially if he knows it’s on his behalf.
9. Let Your Hair Down
If you tend to wear your hair up most of the time, mix things up by letting it down on your next date. Bonus points if you let it down in front of him and give it a sexy toss.
How to Physically Turn on a Guy
While the past 9 turn ons for guys involved no touch (though touch may come after the move!) these tips are definitely hands-on.
10. Massage His Feet
I don’t know why women are always the ones to ask for a foot massage; we guys like them too! After a hard day’s work, there’s nothing nicer than having a woman caress our tootsies. And it’s easy to turn a legitimate foot massage into something more sensual. Just go slow. Maybe use massage oil. Then slowly work up the foot to the calf to the leg to the…okay, you can take it from there.
11. Have a Tickle Fight
There’s really no reason for two adults to tickle one another…except to have an excuse to touch each other! Find out where his ticklish spot is and launch a full-on attack. If it ends up with you both horizontal on the floor, so much the better.
12. Hug Him
If you want to go a little more subtle than a foot massage or tickle fest, start with a basic hug. But realize you can put a lot into a hug, and that there are a million ways to communicate your feelings with one!
Hold the hug for longer than you would with a friend. Squeeze hard(ish). Maybe rub his back a bit. Opt for arms under his as an opportunity to snuggle even closer. To get sexy, press your body firmly against his.
13. Find Excuses to Touch Him
Whether you’ve gone out with this guy or not, this is a big turn on for guys: simple (but seemingly accidental) touches.
Maybe you reach for the popcorn at the same time.
You graze his arm with yours when reaching for the salt.
Your legs lightly press against one another under the table.
There are infinite ways you can find an excuse to touch him, so keep an eye out for these opportunities.
14. Make the Kiss Linger
If you haven’t yet had sex, this is another good seduction technique. Stretch out a kiss, moving slower and slower. If the situation is right for having sex, this will likely lead to it. If not, it is at least a great preview for him to see how incredibly sexy you are and will make him look forward to when it finally does happen.
How to Sexually Turn on a Guy
The last section in this article deals directly with sexual turn ons. So if you’re not yet having sex, save this section for later! But if you are, whether it’s been once or a million times, these tips can greatly enhance your sex life — as well as your relationship in general.
15. Establish a No-Hands Rule
It’s nice to take turns being in charge in the bedroom, so establish your dominance from time to time by controlling the situation. Don’t allow him to touch you during foreplay. The sexier you are, the more he’ll want to, but rules are rules!
If necessary, tie his hands or hold them with yours so he can’t touch you. Then when it’s time to have sex, untie them (or don’t) and watch how he pounces on you.
16. Share a Steamy Fantasy
While it can make you feel vulnerable to talk about your most private fantasies, doing so can show your man that you trust him. In addition to that, it’s guaranteed to turn him on!
Another strategy you can use: play out that fantasy with him. This makes him feel like part of the fantasy, rather than outside of it. Plus, you’ll be turned on too!
17. Have a Short-and-Sweet Makeout Session
Want to leave him wanting more? Make out for just a few minutes, getting him hot and heavy…then leave. Maybe it’s at the end of a date and you’re kissing goodbye in the car before you go in your house. Kiss him passionately (get creative with your hands) then pull away, wink, and get out of the car.
Oh man! You’ll take his breath away and make him ready to find out what would happen if you didn’t end that makeout sesh prematurely.
18. Wear the Lingerie That Makes You Feel Sexiest
While wearing sexy lingerie is a big turn on for guys, it should be first and foremost for you. Knowing that you have, for example, lacy red panties and a bra on under your work clothes should make you feel incredibly sexy.
When you feel sexy, he’ll pick up on that. There’s nothing hotter than a Sexy Confident lady!
If you want him to know you’re wearing something he should want to see in its full glory, wear a sweater with a wide necked collar so your bra peeks out and gets his attention.
19. Share Your Toy Box With Him
If you’re like 53% of heterosexual women, you’ve used a sex toy. While you might typically use them when you’re on your own, sharing those toys with your lover is a great way to turn him on. Just the idea of you using these toys when you’re alone will get his libido running.
The possibilities here are endless. You can let him watch you enjoy the toy…or let him use it on you.
20. Talk Dirty to Him
One of the best things you can do to enhance your sex life is communicating your wants and needs. While the basics of good communication can simply be telling him what you like and don’t, you can also take it up a notch by talking dirty.
This doesn’t just have to be during sex! Imagine his reaction if you lean over at dinner at a fancy restaurant and tell him what you’re going to do to him later!
Gauge how he reacts to the dirty talk before doing more. Some men respond positively, while others may be overwhelmed.
21. Break Out the Blindfold
Another way to seduce your man is to use a blindfold during sex. By eliminating one of his senses (sight), he has to put more attention on his other senses, and touch will be even more sensitive.
It’s also a turn on for guys because they don’t know what your next move will be in terms of where you kiss or caress next. The surprise and anticipation are crazy hot.
22. Take a Shower Together
Who says a shower is just for getting clean? It’s also for getting dirty if you know what I mean (wink wink!).
It’s especially a turn on for guys if your man is in the shower alone and you surprise him by sliding in behind him. Wash his body sensually, taking your time to kiss him passionately. If it leads to sex, so much the better.
23. Watch Sexy Movies Together
If you’re up for watching porn together, go for it, but you don’t have to do it if you’re not comfortable with it. There are plenty of regular movies with hot sex scenes guaranteed to light the couch on fire if you watch them together. Here are a few to get you started.
- Dirty Dancing
- Killing Me Softly
24. Give Each Other Nude Massages
Just like with the foot massages tip, full body massages can be a turn on for guys. Even if you start out giving a utilitarian massage (because he’s got a knot in his neck), it can easily transform into something else (especially when he flips over for his “front massage.”).
Light a few candles and play sexy music to further enhance the mood.
It doesn’t take a lot of effort to master any of these turn ons for guys, but you do have to prioritize sexiness in your life.
If you’re in a new relationship, it may come more naturally to you than if you’ve been in a relationship for years. But in either situation, a little effort to show your man that you’re physically attracted to him will pay off big time. Not only will your sex life be red hot, but your relationship will also thrive. A couple that is passionate for one another has a solid foundation for an emotional and long-lasting partnership.
So share with us! What are your tips to turn on guys? Leave them in the comments below.
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